The Important People

And then he was gone. Not for good, but far enough away to rule out spontaneous Friday nights over a couple of bottles of wine or lazy Sunday's watching stallion videos or Tina T on You Tube.

Thank goodness I've still got Kris or I would have seriously had to consider looking for a man in my life or something. The two boys have worked as perfect substitutes for the last year. In fact I wouldn't have had it any other way! The three of us have been such a good little group it feels very wrong for it to change.

But I realised the other week that from a potential new man point of view it really hasn't been helping me to go everywhere accompanied by two men. Because people seem to assume that I am together with one or the other. Or both in fact. I hadn't really thought about it like that at all until I three weekends in a row was asked about my boyfriend.

What boyfriend? Have I missed something here?! Isn't it obvious to everyone that in the event of any of us hooking up it is a lot more likely to be the two of them. Clearly not... So upon reflection that might be why I haven't attraced much male attention lately. Well, I like to think of it that way anyway.

But now things will be different. There are changes all around at the moment in fact - like there should be I suppose. So I keep reminding myself that some of my best friends are a lot further away than he is going to be. And that it really hasn't changed a thing. The special people will still be special despite the distance. I am going to miss him a lot, and so will Kris, but we will just have to get on with it.

There are great things in the making I'm sure, but to get there we all need to make some decisions and dare loose our footing for a while. I've finally managed to throw myself into things big time again, and now that I'm getting my head around it I am convinced it is for the best. And I wouldn't want anything less for my two best friends! How did Kyra put it the other week:

“If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.”

And we wouldn't want that.